
July 25, 2022 Vega Schools Academics
How can school help a shy child?
All of us parents do our best to raise our child. We do everything possible to impart life skills to our children. But what if your little one is shy or gets exhausted socialising or needs more alone time than others? Is the child self conscious? Does she need more down time to recharge her energy? Such children are called introverts. There is nothing wrong being an introvert. It is neither a disorder nor a weakness.
Being introverted is completely natural and normal, and shyness can be overcome with time.
Studies have shown there are around 50% people in any population who are intrinsically introverts. It is something humans are born with and is determined largely by our genes. Dr Marti Olsen Laney says in the book ‘The hidden gifts of the introverted child’ that kids may sometimes show these signs of introversion or extroversion as early as four months of age.
Here are some ways in which a school can help
Acceptance
Embrace their uniqueness. The best thing you can do is honour their temperament. Shyness and introversion can lead to various strengths, some of them being the ability to think deeply and to form deep bonds with others.
Understanding
Understand why an introverted feels tired and cranky after socialising. Teach them there is nothing wrong with needing to spend time alone. A lot of this will naturally change when a child starts going to school
New people and situations
This will happen as a part of their normal school routine. Some of the best schools in Gurgaon teach children in smaller groups and give them the opportunity to have fewer people to avoid an overwhelming experience. This also creates a platform for children to build strong, meaningful and lasting relationships.
Trained teachers who can understand children
School is another social space after home
Choose where to sit
Top Gurgaon schools usually believe in giving each child her space. They allow the children to choose where to sit and also create quiet corners for them where they can decompress and get energised. Remember, introverted children (and adults) need a quiet place to get energised.
Encourage them to make friends
Research says that children perform their best in school when they have a good friend. Even one or two friends who share the same interest or stay in the same area or travel by school bus can be the first platform to create bonds. This will greatly help a shy or an introverted child adjust in her social space.
Talk to your child about the time they enjoyed being with friends
Positive reinforcement can go a long way. It is a time tested strategy for social and emotional development. Teachers in top Gurgaon schools encourage and appreciate the children when they have enjoyed a specific team game. This is one sure way of regulating emotions and dealing with fear for large gatherings.
Role plays in choice time or free play
Schools in Gurgaon give lots of importance to free play and imaginative play. It is a technique of strengthening social skills learnt at school. Kids often use soft toys to role play conversations with playmates. Schools that focus on learning by doing create a lot more opportunities for children to overcome shyness.
Circle time
A well trained teacher will create opportunities for children sharing and listening to each other. For example circle time becomes a great space to encourage and to compliment a child on her or his social development milestones.